What to Say: 5 Scripts

for the 5 Hardest Parent-Teen Moments

Start here: The Need Decoder

Open the Need Decoder first. Find which situation applies to your teen right now. Then open the corresponding Day card. Don't read all 5 at once — one per day, one script at a time.

Connection · Safety · Power · Freedom · Worth

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The Need Decoder
Start here — find today's need
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Day 1: Connection Script
After the fight — rebuilding without losing face
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Day 2: Safety Script
When "I can't" isn't giving up — it's a brain alarm
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Day 3: Power Script
Boundaries without a battle
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Day 4: Freedom Script
The exit door before they break a rule
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Day 5: Worth Script
Praise without pressure (includes ascension)
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1

Open The Need Decoder

Identify which need your teen is expressing right now. Match their behaviour to a need — Connection, Safety, Power, Freedom, or Worth.

2

Read the matching Day card

Open the corresponding Day script. Read the hook and the insight. Then try the wrong vs. right comparison — notice which one feels familiar.

3

Try the script today

Use the "Today's Move" action. Don't aim for perfection — aim for one different response. That's enough.

4

Tomorrow, repeat

Open the Decoder again. The need changes day to day. The script changes with it.